First, let me say that this is a wonderful idea and I look forward to reading others stories as well in the hopes of healing and answering my own questions as to Why this is happening to my family. Our life was turned upside down when my husband came home and told me he was laid off of a local agency. That was 18 months ago. I felt a brief wave of panic, but used the logic that I have always comforted our friends with, who had been facing a layoff, by saying, “your educated, your experienced and your very good at what you do, so you will ALWAYS be able to find another job”.
How wrong I was.
Its been 18 months and after 168 resumes, there has been only one response – a business in the construction field who is willing to hire him, but there is no pay until the firm brings in more work to make payroll, not ideal, but he took the “job” to see if he can help them – we have not seen a check yet.
Then we told ourselves, that because the children are young, we could work anywhere and should not be so close-minded. If we have to move from Cincinnati, if we have to work for less money, or a less ideal job, then that¹s what we will have to do, these are unusual times. But N O T H I N G. As a freelance graphic designer and mom I have also decided to throw my hat into the employment ring and both my husband and I have scoured the US. Resumes posted on Monster, Career Builders, US Government, networking with LinkedIn and Facebook, reading the newspaper job ad, paying a $250.00 fee for a special job line company, talking to specialized recruiting groups and getting advice to enhance our resume have all failed to produce any outcomes. We cannot even get hired by Krogers or Wal-Mart. The humanity in applying for a job is gone. No one calls you, you have no human name to contact, only a cold computer, that rarely is even automated to send you a “Thanks But NO Thanks” letter. There are so many WHYS…Why are we not right, Why do you not show any interest, we are great people who care, are hardworking, loyal and talented, Why is this happening? Why have we failed!?
My husband and I have just turned 40 and have three wonderful little girls, ages 5, 3 and 2, and two dogs. It is their spirit that keeps us fighting on the days when we want to roll over and cry. We realize that as long as WE stay together as a family, a roof is only a roof – but is it?
There are the little things that mean a lot to us. We love our community, there are great schools, it’s safe for our children and we have invested time in getting involved with the local township committees to help keep our neighborhood strong. We live on a road, and our neighbors are 80 years old and light up when my energetic daughter comes over to talk with them practically everyday. She calls them “grandma and grandpa” and shares a comforting conversation when mom and dad are too busy trying to make ends meet. They are life’s blessing to us. I question will their spirits break, and who will watch over them when and if we are forced to move. My own mother has end stage cancer and is now at home. I try my best to help my father care for her, but it pains me that I can not do more after all mom has done over the course of my life, but I also need to work at saving my own family.
It’s a lonely feeling when you know we are all ALONE in this. I listen to the media who optimistically tell us all to “talk to your creditors, talk to your bank – they WANT to work with you”. Here is the rest of our story – we had near perfect credit – 720, we were never late on our mortgage payment or any credit card payments for that fact. When my husband was laid off, we called everyone to let them know of the situation and if they could help lessen our financial burden until things turned around. Their across the board comment, “well sir I see you are up to date on all your payments, when you start having problems, call us”…in other words, “do not pay us, we will ruin your credit score, then we can talk”. So we had to do just that…next call response, “sir, we see your account is past due, and can not talk about your issue until you have made it current…OR…you do not have a job so we can not help you.” Where is the HUMANITY I ask – even credit counselor sing the same song. We are not bad reckless people, we are a family whose primary provider lost a job.
We have drained our 401K and we have gotten the foreclosure notice. I cry alone often so the family still sees me as the optimistic fighter. My husband has broken down and apologized for being a bad husband and provider – which is not true. Our humble house IS important for us and our young children. It has our memories of nine years. Its our first home and one that we put a lot of blood sweat and tears into repairing and making it ours. It’s our security, stability and most of all it is simply O U R H O M E not just a building of brick and mortar. I want smiles and laughter to return to this home and to move forward out of this nightmare.
ANGELS – big and small, near and far, if anyone knows of employment positions in the business / office management, account executive please let us know. My husband is a truly wonderful man, a great husband and father. I do not want him to feel the pain of losing our home, when he done everything to save it and us.
We pray for everyone out there sharing our hardship.